Women's Wisdom

What if you don't want to be Famous?

These days there is so much information on the Internet about how to get famous, get known now, be remarkable, find your niche, etc. And there's alot of GREAT information.

But what if you don't WANT to be famous? When I think of famous, I think of high-profile movie star or an appearance on Oprah. What if you don't want that kind of visibility and attention?

Maybe not wanting to be famous is a form of self-sabotage. Or maybe it's a result of being sensitive to judgment, attention and criticism. Or maybe it's just crazy.

Let's take a closer look...

Is it that you don't want success? Or is it that you want success on your terms?  I seriously doubt you want to be mediocre. Maybe what you really want is to make a difference. So is there a distinction between wanting your work to be known, but not necessarily YOU?

Let's take a real-life example. I'm passionate about Animal Rescue and specifically about addressing the pet overpopulation problem. It is unacceptable to me that we put 4-5 million cats, dogs, puppies and kittens to death every year in this country's animal shelters. On average, over 75% of the animals going into shelters - die. The only answer is Spaying and Neutering our pets, addressing the problem at the root . I want every pet to have a wonderful, forever home. EVERY PET!  This is WORK  I'm passionate about and work that I want to be FAMOUS and KNOWN - NOW.

In the name of this WORK, I would do alot to get it out there in public - taking the attention, being more visible, and being the advocate. I wouldn't do it it to promote myself; but I would do it to promote the WORK.  Note the distinction?

When you think about being famous or getting known now, what part of you responds? Does your ego jump up and say "Yes, that would be great!". Or does your mind jump in with some form of criticism or negativity? Does your heart expand or shrink? Do you get a knot in your stomach? All of these responses are valuable input and insight and clues as to what's important to you.

Maybe "getting famous" or "getting known" triggers some beliefs about what you will have to give up. Do you believe that to be successful, famous and known that you will have to give up your privacy and your sanctuary? Do you believe you will have a ton of obligations, responsiblities and commitments? Maybe you believe you will lose your free time and open space. Or that your calendar will be booked from dawn to dusk. Are these your beliefs about being famous? Or getting known? Or success? if so, then no wonder you don't want it! :D

My past experience with being known and being the expert (from corporate America) was that I was in  high demand. That part was OK. What was not OK was having people think I was the only one who could help them and not having the option to say NO. I was not in control of my own schedule. That leads to overwhelm and burnout.

So it is crazy to not want to be famous? Is it crazy to not want a media kit and press releases so you don't get asked to be on TV or radio? Does it make a difference if you promote your work vs. your Self?

Hmmm... This is a great opportunity to look at your beliefs around success, being known, and being famous. If they work for you and empower you - great! If they don't and are getting in the way of what you want then it's time to transform your beliefs. (See Resources section below)

Here's to your Success - whatever that looks like for you!

In Spirit,

Lauren

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RESOURCES:

If you're looking for great information on getting famous, getting known, picking your niche, or being remarkable, check out these resources:

Get Known Now - Suzanne Falter-Barns - www.getknownnow.com

Extreme Niche Marketing - Barbara Casey - http://www.extremeniches.com/

Article "Steps to Finding Your Ideal Business Niche" - http://www.newradiance.com/NicheMarketing.htm

Being Remarkable - Kendall Summerhawk - www.kendallsummerhawk.com

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WHO ARE YOU?

"I always said I wanted to be somebody.
Now I realize I should have been more specific"
- Lily Tomlin, Comedienne, Actress

Who are you? A simple question; and yet the answer can span from the simple to the profound.

How do YOU answer this question? Maybe you answer "I am Lauren" or "I am a coach" or "I am the daughter of Joy and Jerry" or "I am the mother of Katelyn and Kevin". Or maybe you answer "I am a spiritual being having a human experience" or "I am a child of God".

Is there one right answer? Or do they all apply? What if I asked you, "Who are you TRULY?"

You are not your ROLE of mother, daughter, sister, wife, professional, business owner. You are not your checking account, with your worth fluctuating like your balance. You are not the car you drive, the house you live in, the business you own, or how much money you make.

You are not your children. You are not your expectations, your beliefs or your values. And you are not what people think of you either.

You are not your thoughts. You can observe your thoughts, so who is observing?

You are not your emotions, for you can observe your emotions. Who is observing?

You are not your body. It is a glorious temple that houses you, and you are not your body.

So WHO ARE YOU? Finding the answer to this question, can lead you on an amazing journey - to your Self!

Action Steps:

1) Start your day by taking some quiet time to ask your Self "Who Am I?" and journal your answer. Notice if your answer changes over time.

2) As a meditation exercise, find a nice spot outside where you can sit comfortably and quietly for 15 minutes and see the sky.

• Take 3-4 deep breaths, focusing your attention on your breath. This brings you into the present moment.
• Ask "Who Am I?" and observe the thoughts that come up. Notice that you are observing your thoughts. Ask "Who is Observing?"
• Ask again "Who Am I?" and observe the response and notice your body and what comes up. Ask "Who is observing my body?"
• Ask again "Who Am I?" and notice the emotions or feelings that come up. Ask "Who is Observing the feelings?"
• Ask again "Who Am I?" and...
  o notice the sky
  o notice the clouds
  o notice Nature

Keep asking until your 15 minutes are complete. You might want to take a few moments and journal your answers. Repeat this on a weekly basis for a month and notice if there are any changes.

In Spirit,

Lauren
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Lauren Lee, Spiritual Teacher and Master Spirit Coach, is passionately dedicated to helping you remember who you truly are at your Core, guiding you to find your Voice and your Soul's passion, and empowering you to express your Authentic Self in the world from a place of power, love and courage. From this place, you create the life you've only dreamed of - your ideal career/business, relationship, health, wealth and community.

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Ocean Songs

Love the ocean? I do!

I discovered this wonderful software program that has ocean waves. It runs in the background on your computer, meaning it doesn't interfere with your work; and has a really nice sound to it. I'm pretty particular about the ocean soundtracks I listen to; and this one is lovely.

You can use it to practice your meditation or just to be near the ocean :)

The software is available for free as a 30 day demo at: http://mindchimes.com/oceansongs.html

It's called Ocean Songs by Wind Chimes - Enjoy!

In Spirit,

Lauren